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Chapter 247 - 245: People-Pleasing Personality

Chapter 247: Chapter 245: People-Pleasing Personality

Identifying problems, recording problems, analyzing the internal patterns and logic of problems, and then solving problems in the present and preventing problems in the future.

This statement by Nan Zhubin aligns well with the scientific research mindset in psychology.

The crowd, who was just abuzz with several heavy news, involuntarily lowered their voices and turned their attention back.

Private discussions can happen anytime, but for now, it’s more important to listen to others’ analytical thoughts and results.

Nan Zhubin’s voice collected its emotions, becoming deep and steady: "First—"

Nan Zhubin lightly tapped the laser pointer, switching to a title slide: "’An Analysis of the Causes of [Smiling Depression]’."

Then, switched the PPT again.

As the screen changed, it was no longer cold text but became a series of screenshots.

Screenshots from a personal Weibo account’s updates.

"These screenshots are from the visitor’s small Weibo account, where she uses this account as her ’tree hole,’ recording life in the form of a personal diary."

This was more appealing than Song typeface text, and under certain exploratory and voyeuristic drives, everyone’s spirit concentrated a bit more.

[(Photo: A selfie with the main gate of "Jiangdu University," a selfie with the sign of the "Liberal Arts College" gate)

At Xiaohui’s suggestion, I started recording my life again, from today, I’ll treat this as another me.

Pretending it’s the first day of school, taking photos with the long-awaited "alma mater."

Although I still want to study medicine and become an outstanding adult like my dad, Dad must have his reasons for letting me study Chinese language, I will strive to find fun in the major!]

This is the first screenshot.

[(Photo: Working at a milk tea shop, with pink band-aids on the thumb and forefinger of the left hand)

Covering for a sick senior for the seventh day!

Remembering how to customize the sweetness level in 128 ways～

Adding one more spoon of syrup can reduce one spoon of complaint～]

This is the second screenshot.

[(Photo grid: Shopping mall/food/table group photo/walking down the street/group photo of taking anti-allergy drugs)

It’s so happy to hang out together! So dazed, not knowing what to do, it’s so good to be invited!

Although I am allergic to chili, it’s stimulating to eat it occasionally!

Of course, I have to take the medicine properly to prevent everyone from worrying～

Today, I am also the brave Chen Jie challenging oneself.]

This is the third screenshot.

[(Photos of four different club activities, standing at the corners in all of them)

Human observation diary.

Debate team substitute→choir harmony→basketball team logistics→literary society proofreading—I’m like a sticky note, stuck in the seams of excellent people’s lives.

Even Xiaohui doesn’t know about these activities I took on～

Full power maxed out within a week, and stayed up late to write debate drafts for a shy senior.

Testing my talent and limits!]

This is the fourth screenshot.

...

The above four screenshots each occupied a part of the PPT.

The parts related to selfies in the screenshots were mosaicked over the face of the visitor and parts not related to the visitor.

"For the above four life moments, I wonder if anyone here can discern some personal traits of the visitor."

After saying this, Nan Zhubin paused for about ten seconds, during which there was a slight buzzing sound from below the stage.

Of course, it’s not yet time for interaction, and Nan Zhubin wasn’t expecting an answer.

This is a small interactive technique in presentations, just to focus the audience’s attention further.

It is also a little thinking time given to everyone present looking at the PPT text and listening to Nan Zhubin’s narration.

After ten seconds, Nan Zhubin answered his question:

"From these social media posts, we can see the following traits of the visitor—"

Nan Zhubin enumerated them like precious treasures: "She idolizes her father and wants to study medicine, but she easily changed her mind and wanted to proactively comply with her father’s demands—this is ’suppressing self-needs.’

"Covering for a sick senior for seven consecutive days—this is ’overgiving.’

"Being delighted to be invited and thus eating chili, which she is allergic to—this is ’non-refusal,’ and also ’lowering principles and boundaries.’

"Participating in multiple club activities and staying up late to write for others—this is also ’overgiving,’ possibly mixed with ’non-refusal.’

Below the stage.

Experienced consultants already understood what Nan Zhubin was going to elaborate on next.

The students from the same major, those attending from other colleges, and staff were guided by Nan Zhubin, starting to unravel the final mystery.

"And all these traits can eventually be condensed into one feature, which is— ’conforming to others’!"

"Our visitor’s significant characteristic in interpersonal communication is— ’conforming’!"

...

The first family therapist in the United States, [Satya], proposed five communication types, known as the [Satya Communication Model].

According to statistical analysis, arranged from low to high based on each type’s percentage of the total sample size, these five communication types are:

1. [Distracting Type]: Occupying about 0.5%, these individuals often avoid the main point in communication, enjoy shifting topics to distract others’ attention, lack focus, and find it hard to engage in deep communication.

2. [Congruent Type]: About 4.5%, these individuals value themselves, others, and the context, can easily express their feelings and expectations while respecting others and the environment.

3. [Super Rational Type]: About 15%, these individuals suppress emotions daily and evade feelings, often focusing too much on the context, neglecting their own and others’ emotional needs, leading to emotional alienation.

4. [Blaming Type]: Constituting 30% of the population, these individuals tend to attack others in communication, only focusing on themselves and the environment, pushing responsibility onto others to avoid facing their problems.

5. [Placating Type]: Occupying 50% of the population, these individuals often overlook their needs, focusing only on others and the environment, alleviating stress by conforming to others.

Of course, due to environmental and era-related differences, theories proposed in the last century in the United States certainly differ somewhat domestically.

But each communication type can still serve as a template, used as a reference when analyzing others, greatly enhancing the efficiency of individual casework for visitors.

Like Chen Jie, who quite fits the [Placating Type] communication template.

...

Nan Zhubin continued:

"According to Satya’s theory, the tight relationship established between parents and children from a young age can influence children’s communication when they grow up, and subsequently affect their survival stance."

"Meanwhile, because of translation issues, substituting ’conforming’ with ’people-pleasing’ is also acceptable."

"Thus, we can also utilize this communication model to speculate on Chen Jie’s personality mode. If we were to use a less academic, more daily language concordant with everyone’s vernacular, we could say this visitor is—"

Nan Zhubin enunciated one by one: "plea-sing per-son-ality."

People-pleasing personality.